Dylan's Kindergarten Field Trip



Sept. 14, 2011 - It's that time once again when Dylan sets off on another field trip.  This time they're heading to Lucky Me (the noodle factory), Paradizoo (an animal farm/zoo) and Tagaytay Picnic Grove (for rest and relaxation).  As you can see, Dylan is excited to be on their way.  
Their first stop was the Lucky Me Noodle Factory but we weren't allowed to take pictures because of security reasons.  This part of the trip would have been more interesting if we had more time to really listen to the tour.  Instead, the tour went by so fast it was like the staff were more interested in just breezing through with their spiels and such.  The kids couldn't really pay attention and they can't really see over the windows in the factory.  I had to really focus to hear the tour guide explain the process of making the noodles and packing them and such.  In turn, it was I who had to explain to Dylan.  I guess there were a lot of schools scheduled too so they had to hurry us up.  This was the only photo allowed, taken by their staff after a quick run through of the factory.  

After the Lucky Me Factory, we went to Paradizoo Ranch in Mendez, Cavite.  There were a lot of chances for taking pictures because there were a number of different animals that Dylan went a little crazy going after them :)  There was a white carabao, a black carabao, a camel, horses, foreign goats and sheep, butterflies and bees.  Here are some pictures. It was raining hard some of the time which was hard for the kids but it was otherwise a fun trip.  








The last stop was the Tagaytay Picnic Grove.  This was where we had our lunch overlooking Taal Volcano. The kids breezed through their lunch and just ran around in the grass.  Dylan was also fortunate to have been able to ride a horse.  One of his classmates who originally bought the ticket became scared of the horse so he backed out.  Dylan was given the ticket instead :)  Thanks! :D



 Needless to say, all the kids were tired and pooped out during the drive home :)











Teacher Dory died so suddenly

We were faced with a mighty blow when we found out that Teacher Dory was dead.  We found out only on the morning of Dylan's exams.  We were walking on the way to school when Dylan's classmate's mom called out to us from their house.  Apparently, classes were suspended because Teacher Dory died.  This was such a shock to learn because we didn't even know she was sick or having any medical problems.

I was just in shock because it was such a loss, to Dylan, to me and of course, to the school.  You see, Teacher Dory reminds me of my mom.  They were both exemplary teachers really living the vocation of teaching.  When I say vocation, I really mean it because they really epitomized what teaching was all about.  It's about helping students learn.  It's about expending all your energy to make sure that your students are improving and that you'll waste no time in getting them to stay on their course.  It's about putting aside your own financial troubles and physical problems aside to take on students whom you believe need your help more.

Dylan blossomed under Teacher Dory's care.  Of course, the other teachers in the school helped out a lot but Teacher Dory was the driving force.  She knew how to motivate the kids.  She knew how to scold parents.  She knew how to inspire her teachers.  She's a light to everyone.

To Teacher Dory, you will surely be missed but your influence over my son will not be forgotten.  I salute you for your love of teaching.  I wish there more of you to go around :)

Rhys' second and final month with us

In my previous post, I talked about Rhys' first month with us.  Here now is my account of his 2nd and final month (July 2 - August 6) with us.

As I look back on his last month with us, I remember that his behavior was escalating to the point that he was becoming unruly and undisciplined.  It's probably because he's beginning to realize that his mom was not taking him back and that his being with us isn't a vacation but an actual transfer.  He realizes that his mom doesn't exactly show him enough love because he comments about the fact that the things I do with Dana and Dylan he doesn't experience with his mom.  He also has had to face ugly facts about his life - like Jericho not being his real dad and that he doesn't actually know who his real dad is except for his name.  He also keeps on looking at the kids' photo albums which document most of their childhood, something that he doesn't have, the physical photos, not the childhood.

So I can understand the reasons for his acting up.  However, things are being aggravated by the fact that his mom has up to this time refused to give her financial contribution to us - something that we're also desperately in need of because, to be honest, we aren't exactly rolling in money and, let's face it, an added mouth to feed really needs additional finances.  It's also what the siblings have agreed upon so...

Things kind of came to a head on July 16th, when we had to take him back to his mom because he and I had a showdown.  While he's here, I would supervise his and Dylan's homework and I noticed that Ate Mel was getting really frustrated with him because he wasn't paying attention.  Ate Mel can't teach Dylan until Rhys was finished and it was taking them a long time.  When I took over the study session, he was supposed to memorize our address for an oral exam in school.  It took him 5 hours before he actually did it.  It was just too much.  I will no longer go into the details but I tried every sort of technique to get him to memorize but it wasn't getting into his head.  My son who had a speech problem was able to memorize the address faster than him and that's saying a lot!  Needless to say, I had frayed nerves and that kind of behavior extended over up to the next day and Patrick was here at that time and he observed how Rhys was and it was he who decided that the stress levels in the house were going through the roof and that it was time for the family to take a break from him.

He stayed with Stevie and Toni from July 18 to July 21.  He had to return to our house because Friday, he had an ID Picture taking for school.  On Monday (July 18), I had to go to his school to ask Teacher Dory for some patience because we still hadn't paid for Rhys' school. While Rhys was with Stevie and Toni, Patrick talked with Dimples about her plans for her son.  Apparently, she was planning on moving to a new apartment and not taking into consideration that her son will have to travel far to get to his school.  Her solution, that he stop schooling.  Our original recommendation was for her to find an apartment somewhere closer to where her son goes to school, so she can still have someone caring for him while she's working and that she can take Rhys back when she comes back from work, preferably that she also get a day shift, for both their sake.

Rhys returned Friday but spent the weekend with her mom and Jericho.  This struck me funny because it was supposed to be just the two of them.  Bringing Jericho back into the equation makes me think that she needed someone else to take care of her son.  Anyway, it turned out that making him spend time with his mom backfired because after that, he was just crying non-stop everyday.  No matter how many times I explain to him, he will just cry and cry the whole day, even while in school.  He was also very disruptive in class requiring Teacher Dory to put him a bit further away from his classmates.  His situation was aggravated too when Dimples was supposed to pick him up for lunch during the weekend (July 31) but she arrived late in the afternoon.  She also didn't want to pay the full amount of P5K for the month of June until Patrick left her no choice so she complied.

On Monday, I was able to pay the school from the money that she gave.  All through the week, Rhys was just crying although to be honest, after his talk with Erghie about remembering his mom even while she wasn't here helped a little.  When Dimples was here that Sunday, she mentioned that she's hiring a babysitter to look after Rhys in their apartment which meant that she'll be getting Rhys by Friday.  Unfortunately, the yaya didn't arrive as planned but we felt that it was a blessing in disguise.  It meant that she would be able to take care of her son by herself so on Saturday, we brought Rhys back with her for good.

It was a relief to have him gone from our lives.  Peace settled in.  It's unfortunate though that she didn't continue his education.  At first, I was worried but I let it go.  It wasn't my responsibility anymore.  If she doesn't want to sacrifice her easygoing ways and focus on raising her kid right, that's her problem not mine.  She hasn't even paid for her financial support for July.  Enough said on that...

Goodbye and Good Riddance!
  

Dana's Grade II Field Trip

One of the activities that Dana really looks forward to during a school year is the Field Trip.  This year, the whole school all went to Batis Aramin in Lucban, Quezon.  Unfortunately, I wasn't able to go with her because of all the stress that I was in which caused me endless migraines and hyperacidity.  I wasn't really fit to travel.  So, she went with her Ate Mel instead.




Here are her pics.  Above, on the left, she's on the bus going to the destination.  They experienced some trouble before departing because the buses got delayed and they arrived rather late.  But nothing can dampen their spirits especially when they saw the place.  They had time to swim, ride the zip line, go around the replica of Noah's ark and go climb the really steep and really high Kamay ni Hesus, which was sort of like a lifelike Way of the Cross.  After changing and resting a bit, you'll see how happy she was on the above right picture.

To the right, she's trying out this rope obstacle course.  She really loved it.  On the right, she's here at the base of the entrance to the hotel.   It's such a huge place that it was disappointing they never got around to really exploring every nook and cranny.


Meanwhile, here's a video of her on the zipline.  Can you hear her scream? LOL

Rhys' first month with us

When we agreed to take in Rhys with us, we were only concerned with providing him with a stable environment and for him to continue his education.  We knew that we won't be able to treat him like one of our own kids, because he isn't that and he has his own mother and we're not trying to replace her, but we, Patrick and I, agreed that we'd be as fair and equal as we can.

The first week that he was here, you can see that he's still adjusting to being in a new environment.  He'd be polite and quiet.  We're grateful to Jericho for teaching him how to be independent, for teaching him how to brush his teeth on his own, how to take a bath on his own and he even puts his own dishes in the sink.  How's that for independence?

It was also the perfect time to be here because he had a week to get adjusted before he started at his new school.  We all got a move on to bring him here with us primarily because school was starting and at that point, he wasn't enrolled in any school.  Dimples apparently didn't prepare enough money for his tuition.  So, Patrick and I forked out the initial deposit, Stevie and Toni contributed for his uniforms, shoes and other school supplies.  Dimples couldn't give at this time because she started a new job, or rather went back to her old job but was starting over yet again.

It was like starting new with Rhys.  We had to buy most of his stuff, not just for school but for the home.  He basically had no clothes (his old ones were really old).  He had no shoes but two pairs that were again, old.  He had no toys with him except for Dipstick the stuffed toy dog, which was old too.  When asked about his other toys, he had some but were broken and old.  So it basically fell upon us to provide what we can.  So, when we were buying all these new stuff for him, he couldn't believe it.  It was eerily pathetic that a kid will be so surprised that someone was buying all these things for him.  Does it mean that he rarely gets anything new or he rarely goes shopping for himself?

We had plenty of time with him even though school started because there were a lot of storms that caused the cancellation of some classes.  He was excited to start school and he had no apprehensions because he knew that Dylan went to the same.  However, as he became accustomed to his environment, he started being talkative in school and even managed a temper tantrum where he threw his books at Teacher Dory.  This necessitated him being isolated from his classmates for the duration of the classes and for the week that followed.

He was also showing signs of being resistant with the rules in the house.  We understood that he wasn't used to rules if he's left alone by himself most of the time when he was with his mom and Jericho.  It just became irritating that whenever we'd tell him to be quiet or to calm himself down, he'd just laugh in your face.  Whenever there was food on the table or when someone was going to eat something, he'll be there waiting.  Was this boy starved at some point in his life?  That's the kind of behavior you often see when you feed street children.  They will stuff so much food in their mouths to the point of nausea because they believe that they'll never have that chance again.  He also didn't want to share his only toys (again, understandably because they mean so much to him).  But, when told that he needed to share because Dana and Dylan were sharing their toys with him, he found a way to share but only when it was convenient for him.  Hmm..

I also found out that he had a mean streak.  He purposefully broke one of the chairs from Dana's doll house.  He looked at it, stepped on it and crushed it.  Then, he calmly picked it up and threw it in the trash.  He thought nobody was looking.  But he was wrong.  I saw it and when I asked him about it.  He said, it was nothing.  Lying to my face too. Another hmmm....

There were still a number of incidents that I will refrain from mentioning because this will just become too tedious and too epic. Yes, he's polite.  Yes, he speaks English.  But over-all, he wasn't a good influence on our kids.  Dana and Dylan never lied.  They don't even know how.  Now they do.  They used to be able to play quietly and yes, they can be boisterous too but when you tell them to be quiet, they will.  Now, you need to really raise your voice for them to listen to you.

Do I regret our decision to take him in, NO.  We had to try.  We owe it to Dad.  But we will always put our kids first and foremost.  If our family was getting too broken up and too affected by all the stress in the house, then we have to stop.  But for now, we will persevere.

More to come.
June 6th - July 1st

Dana's teeth extraction

One of the milestones in any kid's life is when their teeth start moving and shaking and they get replaced with "adult" teeth.  Well, Dana hit the ground running, not with one tooth, but with two at the same time.  Her two bottom front teeth were rocking and rolling and it was time to remove them.  NOrmally, I wouldn't worry about them but her replacement teeth were already out.  So, we both visited her school's dentist and asked to have the baby teeth pulled out.  It's a good thing that Dana's used to injections and she's not afraid of them.  She got anesthesia for the teeth extraction.  Warning:  Pictures below may make you queasy! :)


Before
After


Stanley's Pampering Day

I'm sure car enthusiasts will agree with me when I say that when you have a car, she immediately becomes an integral part of the family, like a dog.  You need to save up for it, schedule maintenance/pampering days for it and continually nourish and nurture it with your love.. ok, ok.. that's too much but don't most girlfriends get jealous of the attention their partners lavish on their vehicles?? I rest my case.

Anyway, it's Stanley's turn for some pampering.  Granted that it coincided with his getting a check-up because of the way the power steering is feeling wonky, Patrick and I went straight to Fusion R along E. Rodriguez, Quezon City.  While we were there, Patrick was able to replace Stanley's Headlights and added a 3rd brake light because the parts were there.  He apparently hit a bargain this time, oh if only I was able to take a picture of him! LOL

We went back the next day too, this time to the aircon specialists.  Stanley needed more refrigerant and it was just in time before the kids went back to school.

 

Cousins' Day Out

Something is definitely up when, all of a sudden, you receive a slightly mysterious message from someone that you hardly hear from.  Well, that was the case when I heard from Jericho who messaged me about his concerns about Patrick's nephew, Rhys, who was apparently not being well cared for by his mom (this according to Jericho who was her partner for almost 6 years).  They have now split up but Dimples and Rhys were still living in Jericho's house.

Not to get into all the details because it'll just be too much drama for anyone, there was a family  meeting or you might even say an "intervention", including Stevie and his wife to discuss what's been happening to the boy. Fast forwarding the story, it has then been decided that Rhys will stay with us, the siblings will each contribute financially especially since school will be starting in June, and for starters, Rhys will be spending the night with us just to see how well he gets along with Dana and Dylan, hence the title of the blog post.

So, since we had already planned to watch Kung Fu Panda 2 with the kids, we just brought Rhys with us that same day and he'll be spending the night with us.  It's been a long time since we last saw him.  Frankly, we hardly see him because they don't attend any of the family gatherings, limited as they are.  Here they were on the way to Robinson's Manila.


Here they were, posing while waiting for their pretzels from Auntie Anne's :)

They had a great time at the movie.  After the movie, we went to Max's for dinner.  Rhys ate a lot!

Dana just wanted to show off her earrings :)

So far, it seemed like they were going to get along well together.  Let's wait and see.  We took him back the next day and he had plenty of stories to share with his mom.

Joy Ride in the 2011 Subaru Forester

May 22 and 24, 2011

When you have a Subaru Forester waiting in your garage, regardless if you have no plans, you will find any excuse fitting to drive around in it :)  So, we were thinking:  "If we had no money but we had gas in the car, where would we go?"  We couldn't go to the malls because we'd definitely spend money on food and on other impulse buys.





We decided that a visit to our nearest family merited a drive in the Subaru Forester.  We were also killing two birds with one stone.  We  wanted to try out the famous "Tapsilog ni Vivian" which happened to be a few corners away from Stevie's house so it was the perfect excuse :)




We weren't really disappointed with Tapsilog ni Vivian.  We arrived there a little bit after lunch so it wasn't that jampacked.  We had tapsilog and soda and of course, the staple soup.  :)

For P80, you get a lot of beef and a hefty serving of rice and the egg wasn't runny so I really liked it.




After that filling lunch, we headed to Stevie's house.  It was a chance for the cousins to meet and catch up and as you can see, everyone was having a good time.

It took a while for Hannah to warm up but she eventually did.  Lance was busy watching TV so they were all sitting in front of the TV.

It's nice to see them having fun and enjoying themselves.







 A day later, Patrick and I decided to give the Subaru Forester a chance to stretch its legs and test its engine so we took a quick drive to Clark.  We brought the kids with us of course as part of the experiment :) They loved sitting at the back because of the food compartments.  The cool air that you get from a brand new car was also a welcome relief from the oppressive heat.

 We had lunch at Zapata's which was surprisingly empty except for a few foreigners and their girlfriends hehehe This time I tried their tacos and I was in heaven.  I couldn't get enough of it.. I swear my waistline blew up after eating! LOL

Applying for our Passports at the DFA (Dept. of Foreign Affairs) Part 2: Actual Appointment Day

Like I mentioned in the previous post, we were scheduled to be at the Department of Foreign Affairs building in Aseana Business Park in Paranaque, yesterday, May 16th. Our scheduled time was 1130AM but we were there around 10:45 AM just to be safe since we needed to be there at 11AM as was mentioned in the "Important Reminders".

Step 1: Appointment Verification
We initially went to Gate 1, but we found out that it was reserved for those who made their appointments via the DFA Appointment Call Center.  Gate 2 was for those who made their appointments online and so we proceeded to enter.  The guard at the gate will ask to see your "Important Reminders" notice as well as those application forms which you were supposed to print out.  They don't allow chaperones to go inside, so take note, only applicants are allowed to go in.  Once inside, your first step will be at the Online Appointment Verification Tables.   You can't miss them because as soon as they check your bags, they're to your right.  You will then present your application forms for them to scan the barcodes.  Unfortunately, I wasn't able to take a picture of this area.

Step 2: Screening of Documents


While waiting in the "screening room"
After they have verified your appointments, you will then proceed to the Screening Room (I just call it that because this is where they'll screen your papers).  Mind you, the guards/employees guarding the gates can be quite harsh, cranky and intimidating so just be calm and keep your documents within easy reach.  This area is very much like the NSO Serbilis Center in Pasay.  Rows and rows of chairs on which people sit and move as soon as the counters are available.  Don't worry, it's airconditioned and even have TV screens to keep you occupied until it's your turn.



Justin Bieber entertaining you
 while waiting
There are also as many as 30+ counters so time will pass quickly.  It was around 11AM when we finally arrived at our counter.  My application as well as Den's was quickly approved for payment while they asked me to photocopy my original application form to be attached to Dana's and Dylan's since I'm applying on their behalf.  Warning:  Photocopying within the DFA costs P3 per page!!! So, to those whose parents will be applying on behalf of their children, just make extra copies of your own application forms to save you on photocopying costs ;)  The good thing about the system though is that you don't have to fall in line again.  You can tell the guards that you were asked to photocopy something and they will let you go to the first available counter.  Employees at this section were rather pleasant, must be because it's a pretty simple system.  Some of the documents I brought were returned to me, like the photocopies of the kids' birth certificates (they kept the originals of course) and some other supporting documents.  Once they're satisfied with the primary documents they don't need to ask for more.  But bring them still just in case.

Step 3:  Payment


Dylan obviously getting
bored with waiting 
The next step is payment of your passports.  The regular passport costs P950 each.  This isn't the expedited version which I think costs P1200.  The date stamped on our receipt was for claiming on June 21, so that's roughly a month's waiting time.  They have affixed notices around the building about how they're experiencing some technical difficulties etc so passports may experience a delay in releasing.  Anyway, once you exit this "Screening Room", you need to proceed to the 2nd level where the payment centers are located.  In our experience, there was a waiting section beside the escalators and guards will prevent you from going to the 2nd floor directly.   This was because there was an inordinate amount of people that day.

When we got up, there were more people!  There's a different room called "Passport Section Area 2" which I assumed to be the courtesy lane for senior citizens, infants and goverment employees.  In front of it is more rows of chairs like another waiting section.  At that time, I didn't know what they were waiting for.  Once you get past this area, you'll enter a different room.  Here, you'll find the payment area, the encoding and photo capture section and the courier handling service section.  You can hardly see the payment area.  There were 4 windows, but when we were paying, only 2 were open, must be because it was almost lunch time.






Step 4: Encoding/Enrollment
After payment, you'll proceed to the "Encoding/Enrollment" section where you're going to get your queue number and wait for your turn.  This is where your information will be encoded and your pictures taken for the new e-passport.  There are about 80+ tables there to handle the demand.  There are TV screens which show the current numbers being assisted.  Imagine our surprise when we got our number: 2311 and then we checked the screen for the latest number being processed: 1645.  It doesn't take a genius to see that there's roughly 700 people ahead of you waiting for their turn!! Oh My Gosh!!! That was like being sucker punched!! LOL  Now I understood what all the people are waiting for.  We actually tried waiting a while just to see how fast things are going.  It wasn't fast going at all most likely because it was lunch break already.

While we were waiting, there were employees going around asking people if they were going to opt for the home delivery option.  It was like multi-tasking since they know it takes a while before you get to the encoding part so it's like you're being proactive about waiting LOL  Home delivery costs P120 per passport.


By this time, we took our lunch at McDonald's across the street figuring we have at least 1 hour to get back in line.  So we left around 1230 and were back at the DFA by 130PM.  When we left, the queue was at the 1700 count and when we returned it was at the 1800 count.  So, it's like 100 people every hour were being processed.  See, we had so much time on our hands we actually deduced the math! LOL  This was the reason we brought our laptop along so the kids won't be bored.  Honestly, they need to include kids below 7 years old in the courtesy lane.  Kids this age get bored so easily it's a pain to their parents and guardians to make them sit still for hours!!

We were finally able to make it to the inner sanctum by 3:00.  Things were faster this time around, since the people manning the desks were done with lunch break and were seemingly more energized to work faster :)  When it was our turn for the encoding, it took about 15 minutes to take our pictures and encode our infos and to be reminded when we can pick up our passports!! hahaha so yeah, if there weren't so many people, you can get your processing done in about an hour's time LOL  Here's proof about all this adventure! LOL